Toxic Relationships
Toxic Relationships Don't Discriminate
You could have a toxic:
- Partner
- Boss
- Family Member
- Friend
The list goes on…
Right now, it might feel like being in a toxic situation is an absolute curse. But before you know it, it’ll be an absolute blessing!
I’ve been in toxic relationships, friendships, and work environments. Each of these experiences has shaped me into a more empowered, badass version of SELF. The same can happen for you!
If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you. (Fred Devito)
Are you done with toxicity? Do you not know what else to do? Who else to turn to? People just don’t seem to understand? Maybe you sound“crazy” every time you try to explain what’s happening. Maybe you’re even questioning whether you’re the toxic one… (you’re not!)
I understand wholeheartedly what you’re going through. I won’t tell you to just get over it, to ignore the behaviors, or to think positively…
The toxic person won't change, but you can!
1.
Become an expert in what narcissistic and emotional abuse is, what it looks like, what it feels like, how to recognize it, and why you’re targeted.
2.
Develop a “self care prescription” that supports your emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing.
3.
Identify and HEAL the root causes of why you tolerate such behavior in the first place. (This is where the real SHIFT happens!)
4.
Ditch the drama and disarm toxic people in their tracks.
5.
TRANSFORM and live from a place of personal empowerment and freedom.
- You fear saying no because you might not be liked.
- You’re afraid of what their reaction will be, so you sacrifice your own needs to keep the peace.
- They don't take accountability or apologize for their actions. If they do, there’s an ulterior motive.
- It’s always your fault.
- You feel misunderstood.
- You’re constantly defending and explaining yourself.
- You feel guilty doing things for yourself.
- You’re mentally drained and exhausted, lost, alone, and sad. You don’t know who you are anymore.
- You feel like you’re going crazy.
- Whenever you try to express your feelings, you’re dismissed or told you’re too sensitive.
- They stonewall you and give you the silent treatment. Sometimes you don’t even know what you did to deserve it.
- They act differently with you than with others. It’s like they're two different people.
- Their behavior is confusing. Sometimes they're nice and sometimes they're mean, for no apparent reason. You never know what you’re going to get.
- You’re constantly walking on eggshells.
- You sound crazy whenever you try to explain what’s happening. People just don’t understand.
- Your family is questioning your mental stability. They wonder whether you’re the crazy one.
- Your family is expressing concerns to you about the narcissist, but you can’t see it.
- They twist what you say and talk circles. Nothing ever gets resolved.
- You address concerns you have, but you’re dismissed.
- They accuse you of doing what they’re doing (e.g. cheating, lying, favoritism, demeaning, etc.)
- You keep attracting narcissists -- romantically, in the workforce, friendships, etc.
- Despite your deep unhappiness, you can’t seem to separate yourself.
- You’re having panic attacks and are constantly in your head and on edge.
- You can’t sleep.
- You fear being alone. You think you’re incapable of doing things on your own.
- You fear for your children’s wellbeing.
- You can’t do this anymore.
- You validate yourself and know you’re a good, lovable, and reasonable person.
- You know that if you don’t take care of yourself, nobody else will.
- You only pay attention to changed behavior, not false promises.
- You know that their reactions have nothing to do with you. They project their negativity onto you and try to make it yours. You don’t take it on.
- You know that toxic people are committed to misunderstanding you, so you don’t waste your breath trying to reason with them. You know your truth.
- You prioritize self-love and self-care.
- You keep your inner circle small and only make room for people who make you feel good.
- You have hobbies and new friends. You keep yourself company, and don’t feel like you’re missing out on anything.
- You know you’re not too sensitive. You see right through manipulation tactics and choose not to engage.
- You don’t even notice if somebody is giving you the silent treatment, and if you do, you couldn’t care less. You have better things to do.
- You understand that toxic people have two sides to them -- their false self and who they really are. If it seems too good to be true, it is.
- You know confusing behavior is characteristic of an unhealthy relationship. Healthy relationships provide security, not insecurity.
- You’re well aware that walking on eggshells is a sign of toxicity. You choose to have as minimal contact as possible.
- You don’t bother trying to convince anyone of the dysfunction you’re experiencing. You know the veil will fall eventually.
- You know the trauma has caused you to behave in ways you never imagined. You validate yourself and know who you really are in your core.
- You see clearly now. You’re no longer walking in a cloud of confusion. You’re not in denial and recognize that you've endured emotional abuse.
- You don’t engage in circular conversations. You preserve your energy for conversations worth your time.
- You know your reality. When he/she talks nonsense, you don’t give it any attention.
- You’ve identified and healed your inner wounds related to why you tolerated emotional abuse.
- You know toxic people don’t change. You walk away and don’t look back.
- You’ve mastered strategies to cope with anxiety. You are in control of yourself. You don’t give your power away to anyone.
- You have a self-care routine in place and sleep soundly.
- You know you’re strong and can get through anything. You rely on yourself for everything you need. You’re capable and thriving!
- You will do anything to protect your children. The toxic person doesn’t scare you.
- You don’t have to -- I can help!
- You’ve stepped into your power, you’ve healed your self-worth, you know you are MORE than enough.
- You treat yourself with love and respect, and demand others do the same. You don’t settle.
Step into your power. Disarm toxicity.
1 session
You are in dire need of answers. You suspect you’re experiencing narcissistic and/or emotional abuse. You need somebody to validate your experience and assure you that you’re not going crazy. You might just need a check-in or a pick-me-up. During your 50-minute session, we’ll talk everything through. You’ll feel heard, supported, validated, and confident regarding your next steps.
ADDITIONAL PROGRAMS (BY INVITE ONLY)
3 months
By the end of this program, you have a strong understanding of how to spot toxicity, narcissists, and people with BPD. You’ve identified the root causes of why you accept mistreatment, and you’re on your way towards setting firm boundaries and embodying your self-worth. You’re beginning to implement strategies to cope with anxiety, and you feel lighter, too. A major weight has been lifted.
6 months
Petal to the metal! This is where you knock it out of the park and reap the benefits of the new you. You’re ready to step into your power and a new version of yourSELF! YOU WON’T BE THE SAME PERSON BY THE END OF THIS PROGRAM.